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When One Door Closes…

Hi loves –

So I want to start this month off by being really real with y’all.  If you’ve been following me for the last few months then you know that since March I have had a lot of life changes.  I have experienced change in my career, cities, and honestly within myself.  I told you all of these things & kept you informed on the most basic level, but I didn’t really fully get into the details because I wasn’t quite ready.  Over the last two or three weeks I have gone back & forth about putting my recent journey out into the world of the web wide and finally just asked myself “why not?”.  Then this week I felt even more compelled to do so.  I started thinking, I listen to all of these other amazing stories on podcasts and read about these other peoples’ lives via their blogs, etc., so what is holding me back?  You know how sometimes you just put something off because you don’t want to re-feel some of the bad feelings or you’re scared to put yourself out there in a more vulnerable?  I guess that’s how I was feeling until recently.  Another thing that led me to feel more at ease about being more vulnerable was talking with Annie Spano, founder of Style Collective, & having a chance to actually tell my story on her podcast, Becoming Fearless.  Sure I’ve talked about my experiences a good bit, but I haven’t exactly shared all of the details with y’all, my amazing followers.  Anyway, thankfully none of these experiences of mine over the last few months were by any means traumatizing or life or death situations, but they did make for a few curve balls.  So I’m blessed to say that and even more blessed for the doors they opened.

SO let’s take it back a few months.  This past March I was let go from my job at Google Fiber due to changes in the business.  I hadn’t been there long.  I got hired last July and then changed roles at the beginning of February.  I knew I didn’t want to do that forever and I was obviously doing my blog & social media freelancing on the side and everything was fine time management wise.  One of the worst parts is that it wasn’t just me.  There were 8 layoffs in our office and then more layoffs in other markets.  Needless to say, it was not expected and we were all very caught off guard.  Some people had just bought houses, etc.  It was terrible timing for some.  Although it was not a fun situation by any means, the 8 of us from my office were blessed that we had each other.  We would meet up at local coffee shops and job search together.  I seriously don’t know what I would have done without this group of people during this time in my life.  A week or two later after the reality set in, I had to make a decision – do I stay in Charlotte or do I move home and pursue more social media free lancing opportunities?  My lease was ending in June and I didn’t want to just take any job & be even more stressed to continue paying my rent + bills in Charlotte.  So it was a hard, hard decision, but I knew it was the right thing at the time to move back home and hit restart on my life.  Really this whole experience was a blessing in disguise and I am beyonddd grateful for my sweet & supportive parents for letting Boom and I crash on their new downsized home party.  They had finally decided to downsize and then Boomy and I are all “okay here we comeee!”, but hey it worked out for the best.  During our first couple of weeks here in Kernersville, my family dog, Leo, actually had to be put down and that was really hard on us, especially my Mom.  So I am glad it worked out timing wise for Boomer and I to be here with she and my Dad during this time as well.  The more time has gone on here, I think of how insane it is that ALL of the above and below worked out the way it has.  Prayers & patience y’all, prayers and patience.

So at this point, I was at home in Kernersville working on my blog full time, which is what I had been dreaming to do so I was like heck yea this is awesome!  In the mean time I picked up another social media client, so I was working with two clients at the time and focusing on my blog.  I knew that if I really wanted to up my blog game that one thing I needed to do was improve my pictures on a more consistent basis.  SO thankfully I was able to get a new camera and finally some legit photo editing software on my laptop.  I was so excited!!  In addition to my new equipment, I thought this would be a perfect time for a re-brand and just like that Tayloringstyle was born.

You know that silly saying “go big or go home”?  Well I was already home, so I figured I mine as well go big.  So I changed my blog name to Tayloringstyle, as well as my IG, Gmail, Snapchat, all the things.  Within two weeks, I had more brands contact me about collaborating then ever before.  Now, did I feel like I should just say yes to all of these opportunities?  Of course not.  I was definitely grateful for them, but I am not going to say yes to something just because.  I want all of my love for style, beauty, food, whatever it is to be 100% true.  I’m a terrible liar and I don’t like bs-ing so I am totally against putting out content to y’all that I don’t really love.  Anyway, that’s a whole other topic.  Although I didn’t say yes to all of the opportunities, this still showed me that I was doing something right and moving closer to exactly what I wanted and this was a great feeling.  At this point one of my friends who is also a blogger & a member of Style Collective (Alyssa, aka @hintofhazel) told me that she wanted to refer me to an affiliate program.  This was actually the second time I had been referred and denied.  Again.  At this point I’m like okay what is happening?  I have been working my butt off to improve my pictures & post more consistently and I’ve seen growth, what is the deal?  There was no fo to my mo.  I just felt the mo.  It sucks feeling discouraged and sometimes bouncing back is way easier said than done.  I was upset for a hot minute, then after chatting it out with Alyssa & Annie (FRFR, these girls are da bomb and always have great advice) there’s more than one way to skin a pig.  I realized that I had more to offer.  I have always had family & friends come to me for outfit advice and ask me what to wear for several occasions: dates, job interviews, weddings, GNOs, honeymoons, etc. and I love it.  I love shopping for myself, but I also love shopping for others so I then thought okay how can I make this a thing?  This is what I want to do, this is one thing that I’m really passionate about – styling & shopping for people.  This includes wardrobe clean outs, shopping in person or via social media outlets, outfit pics, me giving advice on something you ordered online & you’re trying it on for the first time and would like an opinion – basically me being the direct person someone can shoot a text, DM, or Snap to to offer style advice on the spot.  I figured sure, we all have our family & friends, but everyone is so busy, what if you need a quick opinion and they take forever to answer?  That’s when you can reach out to me and have your answer stat.  All of this led me to create Taylor Your Closet (which is now service offered via my blog – you’ll see a tab on my blog at the top on the far right).  About this same time I also officially became a consultant for Beautycounter.  I have loved their products and been using them for a couple of months now and I love their mission so I felt it was important to use my platform to show women that there are better skincare and makeup options than what you may currently be using.  Having a background and passion for Education + the opportunity to educate women on safer beauty products just made sense to me.  So I took advantage of this opportunity.  Soon after this, I had the opportunity to do a little modeling for Petal in Charlotte.  I loved how these ups in my life were going.

In the midst of all this, I was still searching for the next full time job for me and again battling with myself about okay do I move back to Charlotte or somewhere here in the Triad area (aka- High Point, Winston-Salem, or Greensboro for all of you non-North Carolina people)?  I started applying to both cities again to see what opportunities were available in both areas.  One day it was High Point.  Then Greensboro.  Then Winston and later that same Winston day it was all of the sudden Charlotte.  I was probably driving my family & friends crazy.

Well fast forward to now, it happened this week!  I GOT A JOB!!  A great job in Charlotte as a Social Media & Marketing Coordinator!  This was my sign.  This was my door and I’m ready to walk on through.  AND I already found a great place to live and I cannot wait to move in!! Definitely stay tuned for all the new things, I can’t wait to share them with y’all!

So why did I randomly decide to share this with you right now?  Well since March, I have become more of a believer in two things called timing and patience than ever before.  Like I mentioned earlier, I’ve been thinking about the best way and time to really give the full deets of my ‘journey’ since March, but no time felt better than now.  The ups and downs since March led me to this point.  The fact that I have a happy ending to the end of this Kernersville chapter and a great beginning for the second chapter of my Charlotte life is the best feeling.

If you don’t take anything away from this post today take this: life is going to throw you curve balls.  You aren’t going to get every. single. thing. you want at the drop of a hat.  Some people may look prettier than you on Instagram or have more followers.  Other people may do other things better than you.  Things change, but do you let these things get you down?  No.  Instead of dwelling on my lows over the last few months, I decided to let them inspire me and I’m telling you, this was way better than sitting around all down & out like Eeyore.  Am I telling you to suck it up and you’re a weenie if you cry over something bad that happens?  Absolutely not.  I cry.  I am quite the avid ugly crier, but the key is not to dwell and to instead figure out okay what can I take from this to get me where I want to be?  It does zero good to dwell on things, it’s wasted time and gets you no where.  I have heard all of the things above multiple times in my life, but sometimes it takes a specific set of events to really make you understand.  I am 110% okay with the fact that I got let go from my job, moved home, and worked my butt of just to be denied because it all led me to where I am now in life, which is exactly what I’ve been wanting and waiting for & it makes me even more hopeful for the future.

I hope that this post can inspire you a little if you’re in need of that and that it gives y’all a little more insight into not only who I am as a blogger/influencer, but also as a person.

I would love to hear your feedback in the comments below.  Thanks again for all of your support & love as followers.  It means the world to me!!

Here’s to a great Labor Day weekend and a great month of September!

Xo,

Erika

 

Ps – my whole outfit above is all from Petal. Y’all know I have been raving about all their new fall stuff, so check them out!

Photos by: Deeana Kourtney

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4 Comments

  • Reply Amy

    Congrats on your new job!! I loved hearing your story and it’s a great reminder that things happen when they happen for a reason. I’m so happy you’re moving back to the Queen City! Good luck with everything!
    xoxo,
    Amy | Pastel N Pink

    September 1, 2017 at 6:46 pm
  • Reply missetayla@gmail.com

    Hi Amy – Thanks so much girl!! I can’t wait to be back in the QC, we will definitely have to get together! Xoxo!

    September 3, 2017 at 10:33 pm
  • Reply Amber Nall

    You are so cute! I love watching your Instastories. I’m a fashion blogger too trying to find my way. Congrats on your new job girl! Sounds like the perfect position!

    September 6, 2017 at 8:50 pm
    • Reply missetayla@gmail.com

      Thanks so much Amber!! That means so much! 🙂 If you ever need anything feel free to DM or email me, I’ll be happy to help anyway I can!

      Xo,
      Erika

      September 7, 2017 at 12:21 pm

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