No matter your relationship status: dating, single, married, “it’s complicated”, etc. this post can apply to you. As we learned from Love Actually (which actually was taken off Netflix & I still don’t understand why) and The Holiday, there are many kinds of love. Everyone’s relationships are different. The way we all give and receive love differs in every person and every relationship and hey, that’s what keeps life interesting. If you’re having a Cindy Lou-Who moment this Holiday season and you’re looking for meaning in this time of year, first look at yourself and the relationships in your life.
Here’s what I mean –
If you’re in a somewhat new relationship, but there isn’t yet a title, heck what do you have to lose? If you want to totes DTR, then go for it. You have to speak up. I don’t think there is anything wrong with women asking for a little clarity. We deserve it. Now you don’t have to go at it all desperate, I mean for all he knows, you’ve been seeing other people so don’t let this chip away at your confidence. Don’t be scared. If he can’t commit and that’s what you want, you know deep down whether to walk away because you deserve more and he isn’t who you should be with at the moment or you may have a great feeling about him y’all may have great communication so you’re okay with being patient. Either way, there is no right or wrong answer. It’s all up to you.
Now, if you’ve been in a relationship for a while & you’re questioning the whole sitch, now is the time to let go. I bet some would argue and say “the Holidays ohhh the Holidays, you don’t want to be alone”. Yea, you don’t want to be alone, but would you rather feel great and spend time with family and friends or be unhappy during this cheerful and opportune time to be so giving with your time and yourself? If he’s a jerk, don’t. waste. your time, money, & energy on him just to break up with him “after the Holidays”. Jk, sort of. But really, if you’re over it or not feeling it, you have to do what’s right for you. So just do it and you both will be fine. Something greater will come along.
Although I’ve never been married – here is my simple, totally inexperienced advice – do something special for your spouse this Holiday season. Make them a gift or have a gift handmade to represent something in your relationship. Gift each other with an experience. Be creative. Yo Men – y’all don’t have the best rep right now with everything going on with these creeps in Hollywood & our own government, so I mean help step up the game. Show your wives, daughters, friends and single women of the world that there is hope. No but really, the ladies in your life would appreciate this and they deserve it! I mean reallllly giving you a nice hint here, you can thank me later. You’re welcome.
Onto a favorite look of mine recently with these warmer temps down here in NC.
Although this post was a bit different than my typical ones, I hope y’all enjoyed it/learned something/learned something to share with someone/were inspired/can just spread some love this Holiday season.
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Enjoy the rest of your Friday!